Dear Mattingly

 

Dear Mattingly,

My letter to you is long overdue. I wanted to write it as soon as I heard your name, Mattingly May McBurney. Mattingly has an interesting history, and I would like to tell you some of it to give you a sense of your own history.

I think it’s best if I start way at the beginning of the Mattingly history for our family. Back in 1902 a man named John Arthur Mattingly married Laura Farmer and they adopted my grandfather whose name became Philip Simeon Mattingly. I believe that Laura Farmer brought Philip into her marriage and is his birth mother, though I haven’t found any documentation to prove it. Maybe I’ll get lucky someday.

Grandpa Matt by Bass Lake

Philip Mattingly is your great-great-grandfather. I called him Grandpa Matt and that’s how I’ll refer to him in the rest of my letter. Grandpa Matt married Vivian Irene Johnson in or around 1924 (I should be able to find the date). She is your great-great-grandmother and my Grandma Matt. They had two children together, my Uncle Johnny Mattingly and my mother Betty Jean Mattingly. They were the two youngest of Grandma Matt’s four children. The other two, my Aunt Helen and Uncle Bill, were adopted by Grandpa Matt and they took his name.

Grandpa Matt is an interesting character in our family history, a mystery to us in a lot of ways. First is the fact that I haven’t found out anything about his birth parents, nor have I seen anything about his formal adoption by John and Laura Mattingly. I think that he had only a few years of schooling as boy. He was born on April 5, 1898, a long time ago, and back then school wasn’t always the first thing kids did.

When he was a young man, Grandpa Matt was a Merchant Marine on a ship with three masts and sails, no engines. He sailed all around and worked on the ship helping it go places and pick up things to take to another place, like lumber from America to Australia. One time his ship was in a typhoon and was damaged so badly that they had to spend two years in Australia to fix the ship before they could come home. He got married there, but his wife didn’t want to come to the United States with him and she stayed in Australia. This is another mystery to us.

Bass Lake House 1983

He was a fireman in Fresno, California and was the Fire Chief’s driver and right-hand-man. One day, the Chief had Grandpa Matt run into a burning building to save someone and he did, but Grandpa Matt breathed in some bad stuff into his lungs and got sick. Eventuly, the doctors told him that he needed to move to the mountains to be able to breathe better and live longer, though they told him it would be only a couple of years. He and Grandma Matt lived at Bass Lake for another 40 years or so. Grandpa Matt was one tough guy. 

He wrote short articles for the local newspaper, worked as the assistant Postmaster at Wishon, Bass Lake, he worked at McDougald’s (also where the post office was), now called Miller’s Landing. McDougald’s had rental boats, gas pumps for cars and boats, a general store, and soda fountain where he would buy me banana splits when I was a little boy. Grandpa Matt and I were close, I think because my mom, your great-grandmother whom you would call GG, was his baby girl, and she brought me to the Bass Lake house to live for the first few months after I was born.

Grandpa Matt taught me things. One thing I remember very well was when he and Grandma Matt were visiting us in La Crescenta when I was a young teenager. GG and GPapa (this is what my dad’s great-grandchildren call him) decided that I needed to sweep out the garage. I didn’t want to, so I was out there sulking around and moving dirt from one place to another when Grandpa Matt came out. He had this gruff voice, and when he saw what I was doing he said, “That’s no way to sweep a garage. Gimme that broom”. He proceeded to show that I needed to start at one corner and work my way across the whole back of the garage, then move it all toward the front, and then into one pile in the middle. Of course, after he’d gotten it started, he had me do the sweeping. He told me it was faster and better than just moving dirt around. And he also told me that it was better not to sulk when I had something I had to do. “Just do it and get the job done. You’ll be happier.”

When I was old enough, and whenever we visited them at the lake, one of my jobs to help with the property was to rake the pine needles in the yard, and it was big yard. On our next visit to the lake after Grandpa Matt taught me about sweeping, I raked the pine needles the same way he showed me about sweeping. When he came out and saw how I was doing it, he looked me in the eye and gave me a nod. He was proud that I’d learned and I was happy to do the raking. I applied that sort of thinking to a lot of things throughout my life after that.

GG & GPapa w/ Amma, your dad,
Uncle Nick,  Uncle Jeff,
and Aunt Kaylynn

Betty Jean Mattingly is your most direct connection to your first name. She is your dad’s grandmother, and he called her Gramsy. As I said, all Gramsy’s great-grandchildren call her GG. She was born in Fresno, California and raised at Bass Lake, California. She grew up in a small, converted one-room schoolhouse that Grandpa Matt got permission from the U.S. Forest Service to fix up and use for their home. Your GG loved Bass Lake and the cabin in the woods. She swam and had the most beautiful swim stroke you can imagine.

GG's and GPapa's Navy Portraits

GG enlisted in the U.S. Navy in 1951 and was eventually stationed at Naval Base Seatle in the state of Washington. That is where she met your great-grandfather, Russell Jay White. He is called Papa by your dad and like I said,  GPapa by his great-grandchildren. Your cousin, Russell Strong McBurney, is named after him. GG and GPapa met at the Recreation Center on the Naval Base, where GPapa worked and where GG loved to swim. I have an old base swim meet schedule showing GG listed for several events. I imagine she won them all.

Wedding Day with Grandpa and
Grandma Matt, GG and GPapa,
and Grandma and Grandpa White

GG and GPapa got married on June 1, 1952, in the Chapel at Naval Base, Seatle, by the base Chaplin. GG became Betty Jean White, which is where your Amma got her maiden name. GG continued in the US Navy until she became pregnant with me early in 1953. She had to leave the US Navy because in those days they did not have a way to have expectant mothers continue to serve. 

I was born on October 24, 1953, at Santa Monica Hospital in California. GPapa was away at sea on the USS Point Cruz, an aircraft carrier. He was part of the Korean War towards the end, and he didn’t see me or GG again until I was over six months old. After I was born, GG took me to Bass Lake to live with Grandpa and Grandma Matt. She had me sleep in a drawer of her dresser.

After GPapa came back from the war and got out of the US Navy, he and GG lived on Torrence, California, not too far from where he grew up in Gardena with your great-great-grandparents, Florence and Albert White. Your Amma was born on December 5, 1955, and came home to the house we lived in until 1963 when we moved to La Crescenta, California.

That is sort of the timeline and the route taken for you to be named Mattingly. But it is only part of the story, so I’m going to tell you more about your GG, the woman your parents named you for.

Grandpa Matt, the first blood-relative with the Mattingly name, was gruff, like I said. He grew up during hard times. Being a teenager during World War I made life difficult even though he was not a soldier. He did hard work for a living and wasn’t afraid of getting his hands dirty. He loved taking photographs and making 8mm movies. Someday your dad can show you some of them. He loved Grandma Matt and their four children. He was proud of who they became. His boys both fought in World War II and had families of their own. He knew how to make the most out of the little they had and they loved living at Bass Lake.

Betty Jean Mattingly
Senior Picture - 1947

GG was an amazing person. The Mattingly family was not rich by any means. The little house they lived in at Bass Lake had three bedrooms for the six people. Grandpa Matt had added the bedrooms and a kitchen to the one-room schoolhouse. It wasn’t until the 1950s when they added a bathroom with running water and it was the only room with wooden doors inside the house. The other rooms had heavy curtains instead of doors which helped the heat from the wood-burning stove get into all the rooms. 

GG felt most comfortable
in a swimsuit. She would have
made a great model at car shows

GG’s love of swimming, hiking, and being outdoors all started there at the lake and her kids love those things too. GG went to Sierra High School and graduated in 1948? I’ll check that for you. Eventually, GG and GPapa added a swimming pool to the house in La Crescenta. 

GG learned to keep financial books for various companies she worked for. A lumber company in Fresno, California when she moved out from her parents’ house, then in the US Navy, Verberg Dairy in Torrence, and John Wells Golf Shop in Pasadena, California.

GG, her good friend, Carol Murphey, and two or three other ladies in the La Crescenta Presbyterian Church started the Center for Children, a preschool. They worked long and hard, raised money, designed the program, and learned to be pre-school teachers and directors. It was a huge accomplishment, and the center is still active today serving little kids and their families. I’m very proud of what your GG did. All her children worked there at one time or another. Your great-aunt Cindy worked there. All our kids went to the school and later worked there. Your Aunt Lauren married Taylor Chambers, the grandson of Carol Murphey, and he went there and worked there.  You can see how big the Center for Children is in our family history.

I told you about a few of the things she did, but the person she was is what drove her to do those things and more. She and GPapa were my junior high youth group (MUCKs – Most Unruly Church Kids) adult advisors, and GG kept doing that for twenty years or more. She encouraged me to help her with MUCKs when I was a 17-year-old, and I’ve been doing youth ministry for most of the last 50 years. She was kind, loving, tough, and fun-loving. She loved all her kids, grandkids, and great grands. The most important thing about her, that made all the work she did, and all the loving she did, is that she loved Jesus, and served him and his people well.

GG was adventurous and tried new things. She loved learning about new things and figuring out the best way to do them. She loved serving people in her community and did that until her health got bad and her need to take care of GPapa grew so big that she had to stop.

Okay, I must go back bit and share a funny thing about GG. When I was growing up, GG used to leave Amma, Great-aunt Denise, and me notes when we left something undone or not done right around the house. She signed the notes, “TOG” which stands for Tough Old Goat. That’s your namesake.

We met for the first time yesterday, November 28, 2025, at Amma’s house for a big Thanksgiving dinner and already I can see some of the Mattingly traits in you. You are adventurous and want to explore things, what you see you want to touch and know about. You don’t seem to be afraid to try to look closer at things you come across. This might drive your mom and dad a little crazy because they want to keep you safe from getting hurt. It’s a big world with big things and us little people need to be careful. Don’t get too frustrated with them while they keep you safe.

You don’t appear to be shy, especially once you get used to someone new. You are not afraid to play hide and seek with anyone if your mom or dad are holding you. You are good at hide-and-seek, but you don’t mind looking people in the eye.

And now we are on Day 2 of the cruise celebrating your Amma’s 70^th birthday. There is so much for you to see and take in. So many people in one place at the same time, eating, talking, and playing while you take it all in. It is hard for me to imagine what it all seems like for you when an old man like me, gets a little overwhelmed, what could it be for a little person like you? I think you are taking it in wonderfully.

Bottom to top: Mattingly,
Avilyn, Emmitt, Bryce, 
Conner, and Logan

You were able to meet many of your cousins of one sort or another. By that I mean first cousins like Conner, Bryce, and Avilyn and then first cousins, once removed like Emmitt, Becca, and Logan. First cousins once removed are your mom’s or dad’s cousin’s kids. Don’t worry, cousins are cousins and I still don’t get it strait all the time and I’m an old man. 

Mattingly and Amma

Your grandmother is a cool blend of GG and GPapa. She is smart and academic when it comes to learning things, just like her dad. GG was tenacious about learning anything and worked hard at mastering each subject, sport, or activity. Amma is like that too. I think you will be like GG and Amma and that you will learn and love learning and love being good at what you learn. 

Your dad gives of himself in all he does with his family, friends, work, and play. When you need him, you can count on him. He has a big heart and knows how to love well. And he is unconditionally in love with you.

Your mom is inciteful, smart, kind, creative, and beautiful. Like your dad, she loves you unconditionally. Her humor makes me smile all the time.

One of the biggest thrills and honors of my life was being the officiant for the wedding of your mom and dad. When the two of them got married it renewed my hope for your dad’s future and made me grateful that your mom would be part of our family.

As much as I know that you will be a blend of all these people, your ancestors, I know that you will take on new ways of looking at the world and new ways of doing things and loving people, and that you will be your own person. I am already enjoying seeing you grow up with loving parents and grandparents surrounding you. I can’t wait to see the next little facet of who you become.

My hopes for you are that you continue to know a loving mother and father, and loving grandparents, that you will find the excellent Mattingly May McBurney and you will be at peace with who you are and how much you mean to the people who are around you.

Love,

 

Your great-uncle Jerry

Matting May McBurney Family Tree - Father's Side: